It’s really easy to get caught up in emotions, especially one like anger. But don’t just express, explain.
Allow me to elaborate.
When something happens to us, good or bad, we produce an emotional response. That response could be anything from belly-aching laughter to blinding rage. Our responses to things are usually as a result of our past. We react using what we deem to be an appropriate response based on similar experiences we’ve had.
For instance, if a lot of bad things happen to you, you’re much more likely to respond to another bad thing with a level-head. You’ve been through it before, and you know how to deal with it now. On the other hand, if only good things have happened to you and now something bad takes place, you’re probably not going to know how to react.
Rationalise your reactions. Learn to explain yourself.
What we need to do is remember that what we have experienced in life will never be the same as anyone else. So when you respond to something in a certain way, it does not mean someone else will too. The best thing that you can start doing NOW is to start learning why you react to things the way you do. Understand yourself, and you can help others understand you too.
So often we find ourselves reacting to other people’s actions, and our immediate instinct is that they knew exactly what they were doing. More often than not, when someone does something that hurts you, it’s done unintentionally. Especially if it is a loved one.
So instead of exploding, yelling at their faces and telling them how heartless they are. Get rid of that anger, and then take the time to explain to that person why you reacted the way you did. Communication is so vital, I can’t express this enough. Without you explaining yourself, that person is left to come up with a reason on their own. And you definitely don’t want that, because most people never find fault in themselves. So their conclusion will probably be based on something wrong with you.
